I listened to an interview with Esther Hicks where she so eloquently defined forgiveness that it finally made sense to me. She stated that forgiveness is never about saying what somebody did was alright or excusable; rather, it is about accepting the other person where they are, knowing that they are doing the “best” they can. Even if, some people’s “best” is on the vibrational frequency of pond scum. I remember a sermon from my pastor where he stated that no one is all good and no one is all bad. We are all on a sliding scale of either tipping towards overall good or overall bad. Everyone is a work in progress – everyone makes their own choices in life.
Too often, people hold onto the memory and the feeling of what happened to them that was unfair or unjust, so much so, that they continue to relive moments from the past again and again. This reliving of the pain keeps the victim stuck. It also becomes a reason for why the victim isn’t living up to their full potential today. Feelings of hatred, revenge and anger are very low vibrational frequencies, which keeps the victim at these low vibrational frequencies too. By accepting the other person as being on the path that they are – no matter how low a path it appears to us – we accept that the person is doing what they know how to do within their own frame of reference. For those of us who have been victims, it is hard to be in the crossfire of these people. However, it is even harder to keep this situation/s as the reason why we don’t shine today.
Maya Angelou says that “when people know better they do better.” Unfortunately, some people don’t seem to know better or to make a choice of being a loving and kind person. They choose hurt, anger and harming others. Even the Christian teachings of Jesus say, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” It is hard sometimes to think that people don’t know better, but their actions are a clear indication that they don’t. Another way to think of this is by saying a snake is going to be a snake. Don’t expect a snake to be a puppy dog. Accept that they are a snake – period. We don’t have to like the snake or invite the snake over for dinner. But we can wish the snake well and hope that they learn to be better. It saves mankind with those thoughts.
Too often, people hold onto the memory and the feeling of what happened to them that was unfair or unjust, so much so, that they continue to relive moments from the past again and again. This reliving of the pain keeps the victim stuck. It also becomes a reason for why the victim isn’t living up to their full potential today. Feelings of hatred, revenge and anger are very low vibrational frequencies, which keeps the victim at these low vibrational frequencies too. By accepting the other person as being on the path that they are – no matter how low a path it appears to us – we accept that the person is doing what they know how to do within their own frame of reference. For those of us who have been victims, it is hard to be in the crossfire of these people. However, it is even harder to keep this situation/s as the reason why we don’t shine today.
Maya Angelou says that “when people know better they do better.” Unfortunately, some people don’t seem to know better or to make a choice of being a loving and kind person. They choose hurt, anger and harming others. Even the Christian teachings of Jesus say, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” It is hard sometimes to think that people don’t know better, but their actions are a clear indication that they don’t. Another way to think of this is by saying a snake is going to be a snake. Don’t expect a snake to be a puppy dog. Accept that they are a snake – period. We don’t have to like the snake or invite the snake over for dinner. But we can wish the snake well and hope that they learn to be better. It saves mankind with those thoughts.
My grandfather was murdered in cold blood. My former spouse lied, cheated, and betrayed me. What happened is not alright. What happened is not excusable. But I refuse to allow these tragedies to keep me from being my best self today. Forgiveness takes you out of forever being the victim. Forgiveness frees you of this heavy weight that bogs you down. Love is the highest vibration. Wishing the offender well is wishing that they too can find the highest vibration of love towards their fellow human beings.
Remember always that you are worthy, you are lovable, and you deserve goodness in your life!
