You Are Seven Foot Tall and Green

If I were to say to you right here, right now, that “you are seven foot tall and green,” you would assess what I said against your own “is it true (???) inner filter”, determine very quickly that you are not seven foot tall nor are you green, and the comment would roll off you like water off a duck’s back.  However, if I instead said “you are stupid and you are ugly” you might hear what I said and think something like “I am stupid when it comes to math. I barely squeaked by in algebra.” Or, “I have made some really stupid choices in my life.”  Or you may say to yourself “You know, it was harder for me to get a date than my friends to the prom. I think it is because the other girls were prettier than me.” Or “the ten pounds I just put on does make my clothes fit a little tighter.”

When I made these very insensitive statements to you, you may very well be a genius and a beauty queen. But depending on who I am to you – your friend, your sister, your mother, or a total stranger, you are more or less willing to accept what I said as the truth. However, the ultimate gauge you use as the filter as to whether or not you believe the statement lies with your own self-esteem, your own self-assessment, and your own self-talk. The next time someone makes an insensitive comment to you, don’t let it through your filter. Don’t start down the path of your own negative self-talk. Instead, just replace their comment with “oh, they just told me I was seven foot tall and green.”

Remember always that you are worthy, you are lovable, and you deserve goodness in your life!